Lost Your Confidence? I’ve Got You!
Welcome to Episode 26!
Well a big hey there you 🙋🏻♀️
Yet again, I find myself saying sorry for how long it has been since I recorded a podcast episode. But, if you will let me explain - these past 6 months have been hard, actually extremely difficult. Jumping back in (in the deep end I like to say), was just not on the cards for me throughout this journey I have been on. And so I haven’t recorded, and I am sorry.
I just needed time. Time to process. Time to grieve. Time to not push myself. Time to just get back to basics not only physically with the big changes I made in letting go of my space, but also getting back to basics mentally after losing a dear friend suddenly, and then my nan a month and a half later.
I needed to clear out all the overwhelm, burn out, expectations + sadness (if this is even possible) and let myself just completely feel how I was feeling. Bloody horrible to speak candidly.
I know I’m not the only one that has experienced these things in life, and I am probably not so far out in saying that you have felt these emotions, maybe even had these experiences in your life too. And it’s horrible isn’t it. When there comes a point where you just can’t see the road in front of you for a while because of what’s happened around you. If you are going through this right now, or have been through this recently, I want to send you a hug. A real big, squishy, hold on too tight and too long hug that helps hold you up more than anything. Because, I can almost understand what you are going through.
Today I come to you - not completely 100% there yet - but with an excitement I haven't felt in a little while. And it made me want to record this for YOU.
It has been such a random happenstance, but let me share. I was listening to a Jenna Kutcher podcast (episode 797 - it's great!!) and it reminded me of the content I used to teach inside the Mindful Business Hub digital course a few years ago. I couldn’t believe that the same strategies were still being spoken about - with a little tweak obviously because our digital landscape changes so quickly. But with similar principles and foundations - and that sparked my excitement and curiosity and my confidence. Holy smokes - it has been a while since I have felt this.
Why?
Because, to be completely vulnerable... From the journey I have been on, I not only lost my passion and my way, but I lost my confidence. Actually - that little voice inside my head is saying ”Tay be honest” - so let’s be truly honest - my confidence levels went to negative 100 and that little voice in my head matched it all the way. I completely lost confidence in my self, my abilities, my business, my impact - the lot - and what was worse is that I then didn't have the strength to find it again - even though I tried so hard to.
Confidence is the emotion that guides you as a business owner in EVERYTHING that you do. Confidence is what allows you to serve, create, nurture, sell, grow… If you don’t feel confident within your self (and I say your self as in two separate words, your self) - it shows like a pimple on the end of a nose and stops you in a heart beat. And boy, oh boy did it stop me!!
I was already on a self discovery journey at the start of the year when I quite my digital course and ended my membership group, but then after losing two incredible people in my life, I closed the doors to my physical space, stopped taking on as many coaching clients, ended around 75% of my subscriptions to platforms + programs within my business, and I downsized. Everything. I went back to the most basic form I could. Because I didn’t feel confident within my self to do anything other than that in the moment I was in.
Right up until the moment I listened to Jenna’s podcast.
Listening to that Jenna Kutcher podcast episode was like a little spark of joy inside. A little notch in my confidence odometer telling me.. “Hey, what you taught before, is still being taught today - I actually do know what I am talking about” - even if my head likes to tell me otherwise sometimes… and what I have to say I believe with my whole heart can help others and make an impact too!
And just like that my creative spark was ignited once again and my confidence re-energised after so long of feeling the opposite - and thus here is this podcast episode.
So, I sit here with you today because I often find what I am going through, you are too in some way or another and I wanted to share this with you in hope it might help you through any experiences you may be having at the moment too.
If you have been going through a tough time, and feeling a lack of self confidence in your business endeavors, in pursuit of an idea, or if you have just been feeling a lack of confidence with in your self, then I want you to know…
No amount of you TRYING so hard to find your confidence to do the thing, will make it happen any quicker. Actually, it will do the complete opposite. Because what it will do is add to your expectations as a creative, and in turn only add more overwhelm and frustration to your life. I really wish someone had of told me this a few months ago.
The only part you have to concentrate on right now - is to stop TRYING so hard to find your confidence to do the things you feel like you need to do, because right now, your confidence doesn't want to be found just yet. It wants to take a blow because it’s telling you, you need a break. You need to stop. You need time out. You need to heal.
As Yoda - yes my hubby is a star wars fan and I am owning it and lightening the mood a little for a sec - as Yoda says - do or do not, there is no try.
✨ You won’t know when it will happen
✨ No-one can tell you how it will happen - not even me with everything I am saying right now
✨ You may not even know why it happens when it does…
But the one thing you can absolutely count on with every ounce of your being is that it WILL happen - when the time is right, when your self is ready no matter what - your confidence WILL spark, it will grow, it will come back..
And the reason I know this with my whole heart, is because you are here listening and that makes you A CREATIVE.
✨ Your confidence will expand and change.
✨ Your confidence will go and come back again.
✨ Your confidence will shift and evolve.
With every experience you have - More times than you will be able to count.
✨ And it is in the moments when you stop trying, when you almost give up, when you surrender to your inner most genuine, honest and raw feelings in that moment, that your confidence will support you.
Only when you least expect it - you might even just be listening to a random podcast episode and the lady your listening to says something that really isn’t that special - it might just trigger your creative spark, and trigger your confidence to take action.
We creatives really are a unique bunch 🙂 We operate from our emotions probably more than we like to admit. We make decisions based on our feelings rather than practical, well thought out, logical steps. And we lack bloody confidence in so many areas of our life it’s not funny!
It’s why when something happens in our personal life, it shifts in our business life too. Because we (no matter how many times someone else tells us the opposite) are our businesses.
BUT, it is in our beautiful idiosyncrasies that the world is so much brighter because of it. Because of us. Because of you. And we need you more than you know.
So, if you subconsciously needed permission to just be where you are at right now, if you need permission to take the pressure off needing to do the thing, to push yourself more than what you are capable of right now, then please take this episode as it. You have permission to just be. Take the load off. It's ok.
I have just been for the last 6 months. It wasn’t easy. Watching others doing things. Feeling left out. Feeling unworthy. Feeling not enough. it has been hard. And it’s been hard in the way of feeling the emotions I needed to feel. But, in a way, looking back, it has been so strengthening, and an experience that has certainly created a new chapter in my life that shapes the person I am right now.
And, right now, today, it’s ok.
Sending you my love and gratitude for sticking with me and hanging in there through it all.
I actually want you to reach out if you are you going through something similar. Are you feeling similar emotions? Have you had a similar experience, or felt a lack of self confidence lately? Reach out on Instagram and let me know - you can find me at @iamtaylahmaree Because I genuinely want to know where you are at with your business adventures right now and if this podcast episode has struck a chord with you, or resonated in someway.
I promise it won’t be so long between episodes my hidden creatives. Here’s to be being back 🙂 xx
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